Let me just say, this will all be from a gay perspective, no way round it. Also, that it is not designed to fill all the emotional gaps in people’s lifes. Art is not a new religion, a stop gap for all the leaking stuff inside: writing, painting, creating are a set of methods with specific tools. Using them doesn’t have to have such a purpose, they can be fun in their own right. But they might work a few patches on the bad stuff, if you try. Healing is a long and mysterious process whereby you deal with painful feelings over time. If you don’t deal with the feelings, they often haunt you anyway, so it’s a choice. Write the first story, or do a cut and paste life montage and see what happens. It’s simple really.